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Thank you for this. Also, relatable as someone who met their person while I was living in London and they in the States and then they in Sydney and me in London and then me in Canada while they were still in Australia and three years of long-distance and all the immigration paperwork and having to explain to people that the narrative about marriage being "easy" for getting immigrant visas is a lie because it is a loooooong and expensive process and that was for us, two (mostly) white English-speaking people trying to sponsor each other to live in our colonialist countries. Can't even imagine how much more difficult it is with kids, with English as a second or third or fourth language, with brown skin, with a faith way too many people equate with terrorism etc. etc.

The thing about queer marriage is knowing the things it makes available to you, like being able to be in the hospital with your partner during a health crisis, being able to live in the same country legally, being able to share health insurance.

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Gahhhhh all the feelz, friend. I had no idea DOMA was overturned the day my daughter was born. 💖

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Happy 10th anniversary to you and your wife Robin. Wishing many years of happiness for you and your sons. I'm glad your story had a happy ending. Love to all of you.

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