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Wonderful post

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Thanks, Jan. ❤️

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Love this “Talk to the pear if you think I’m blowing that out of proportion.”

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Even pears need empathy.

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I love your garden metaphors, and feel this deeply. Sending love to you, friend, and to your trees <3

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Thank you, Reed!

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Your writing is beautiful and direct. Hit me in the heart. Happy early birthday, Robin! 🌈✌️❤️

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Aw, thanks! Much love back at ya.

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Oooh my goodness. These reflections on pruning vs letting things grow, and the connections to queer identity and entering midlife, resonate deeply.

I wrote a bit about this last year when thinking about what to grow in the first place and what to let go, vis a vis family etc:

https://ryanroseweaver.substack.com/p/7-watching-the-light

I’m in the northeast though, so this mostly grew out of just sitting around flipping through seed catalogs at this time of year (while nursing my zone envy for the PNW). This makes me excited to get out and get after it.

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This is such a beautiful post! Thank you for sharing it here. I'm digging in and loving all of it.

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So kind of you to say! I’m so glad we connected on this today! 🌱

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Beautiful. And happy birthday!

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Love everything about this post. I so needed to read it. Thanks for writing it! No wonder we receive the first sign of spring from Robins! x

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On a different topic, I saw today that the DA is not going to bring charges against the girls who beat up Nex. It makes me so angry and sad. They are certainly guilty of something.

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I've seen similar coverage about cause of death and a lot of other things that I think obscure the truth of what happened to that amazing kid. It breaks my heart. Nex and others like him deserve so much better.

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Personally, I think those girls were lying to cover their own asses. If nothing else, they contributed to Nex's death. That's something they will have to live with the rest of their lives.

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I always enjoy your essays, Robin. Hope you have a happy birthday.

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Thank you, Charlotte!

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I broke my guillotine trimmer and now I'm sad. The trees might be less so.

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Just the name of that tool is frightening. I'm siding with your trees here.

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It is what it sounds like, but it's great for pulling out dead branches since it's on a telescopic pole.

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Okay now I'm on your side. I love tools.

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Me too! So much!

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