Thank you for writing this - I never realized, never even thought about, a pressure a trans person would feel to be perfect lest their imperfection be used to judge the entire community. If my wife or I screw up no one will judge other straight/cisgendered couples (correct terminology?) by our screw up. It is a privilege I have that I never recognized before.
My son's online gaming friend of the past year and a half only recently let him know that she is transgender. He adores their time together and I hear him laughing hysterically late at night online with her. He didn't believe her at first, but when he realized she was being honest they stayed up until 6am talking.
I don't know why this anti-trans thing got going and I am horrified at the meanness and cruelty done, and shocked how these haters are SO PROUD of themselves... I wonder what the hell is wrong with these folks who are so filled with hate over something like transgender that does not affect them and they probably never even come across in real life (that they are aware of).
I went back to my son and hour after he told me about her and shared with him that I am proud that somehow she felt safe enough to talk to him and that he is being a true and good friend to her.
Ed, I'm so glad you're here and that you shared that moment between your son and his friend. That's incredibly awesome, and I'm glad all of you have that sort of love and kindness around you. That's how we make the world a better place.
💜 Thank you for sharing. I’m going to share it, too.
Falwell was a particularly vile creature, along with his tele-evangelist fraud family. (I love Hitchens’ slam on him on CNN.) And they are/were only the attack dogs of the deep, razor-wire-laden, hate-filled waters.
It's not easy to live as you describe. Even though we may not live to see it in our lifetimes Robin, I hope there will come a time when people can live as they truly are.
Have you read In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado? She addresses abuse in queer relationships so beautifully. Reading her work is like feeling seen deeply if you’ve been in any sort of abusive relationship.
Thank you for writing this - I never realized, never even thought about, a pressure a trans person would feel to be perfect lest their imperfection be used to judge the entire community. If my wife or I screw up no one will judge other straight/cisgendered couples (correct terminology?) by our screw up. It is a privilege I have that I never recognized before.
My son's online gaming friend of the past year and a half only recently let him know that she is transgender. He adores their time together and I hear him laughing hysterically late at night online with her. He didn't believe her at first, but when he realized she was being honest they stayed up until 6am talking.
I don't know why this anti-trans thing got going and I am horrified at the meanness and cruelty done, and shocked how these haters are SO PROUD of themselves... I wonder what the hell is wrong with these folks who are so filled with hate over something like transgender that does not affect them and they probably never even come across in real life (that they are aware of).
I went back to my son and hour after he told me about her and shared with him that I am proud that somehow she felt safe enough to talk to him and that he is being a true and good friend to her.
Ed, I'm so glad you're here and that you shared that moment between your son and his friend. That's incredibly awesome, and I'm glad all of you have that sort of love and kindness around you. That's how we make the world a better place.
💜 Thank you for sharing. I’m going to share it, too.
Falwell was a particularly vile creature, along with his tele-evangelist fraud family. (I love Hitchens’ slam on him on CNN.) And they are/were only the attack dogs of the deep, razor-wire-laden, hate-filled waters.
Thanks for sharing this, Bryn. It's a difficult topic to discuss on its own, but when we see those attack dogs coming, it's even harder to speak up.
It's not easy to live as you describe. Even though we may not live to see it in our lifetimes Robin, I hope there will come a time when people can live as they truly are.
Have you read In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado? She addresses abuse in queer relationships so beautifully. Reading her work is like feeling seen deeply if you’ve been in any sort of abusive relationship.
I have! It's such a brilliant piece of art but also so very touching on that note of abuse visibility.